“Girls and guys can never be best friends! It never works!” My friend Emily would say this as if it was the most important thing spoken from the pastor that past Sunday. We would all laugh about it and fight her on it, listing all the best guy friends we had trying to convince her otherwise. Although I was so against the thought of this I had to wonder if I could be wrong and guys and girls really couldn’t be best friends.
This past Sunday I listened to a sermon where it was spoken, “Those who know us the best, love us the most.” We spend so much time trying to hide so many things from the outside world. We hide our past, our pain, our hopes and fears. For some reason we allow a special few to know us inside and out, trusting these people with our hearts… something that is worth protecting.
Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)
We expect those who know us the best to run away. We expect them to be disappointed in our mistakes and were afraid one slip up and well lose all the respect we’ve worked so hard to gain. It seems our “best friend” turns out to be the one closest to us. This person admires us, they support us, they believe and push us in the highs and lows of life.
I have been blessed with many wonderful friends throughout my life. Friends who have seen me at my worst, seen me in my moments of weakness where I let anger, bitterness, and jealousy get the worst of me. These friends have shown me what real love within a friendship should resemble.
You’re here to be a light, bringing out the God colors of the world. Matthew 5: 14 (MSG)
My friends do much more than fill the perfect description of a good friend, they show me a little piece of how God views me. Who do you think knows you the absolute best? I’ll give you a hint…it’s no one on earth! God knows absolutely every detail good and bad about you and loves you even more for it. From someone with experience, don’t miss what’s right in front of you. Don’t fall into the trap of believing the more someone knows the more space you’ll put between the two of you. You’re absolute best friends are a little example of what God’s love should look like. Knowing every detail about you and still loving you even more so every single day.